Couples who consistently refer to themselves as "we" may get on the nerves of singletons everywhere, but spouses who use this "couple-focused" language may fare better during conflicts than those who don't, according to a study announced this week.And husbands who say oui (aka yes) also fare better during conflicts but that's a whole different study.
Well, this might explain why my husband and I have been married for 21 years. We've been together for so long, often we say we when we mean I and I when we mean we. Perhaps we fare better during conflict because we're in a constant state of confusion.
We're not the only ones who are befuddled. We've (there's that damn "we" again) found that others will refer to the two of us as a singular unit. When our friend's son was little he used to call us each BrianTraci. He'd say to me, "BrianTraci, where is BrianTraci?" Oddly, it made perfect sense to everybody who knows us (there's that damn "us" again).
Yes, I are definitely "couple-focused. (I said I on purpose. Or should it be we said I on purpose?)
Anyway, the real key to avoiding arguments is to just become one person. Because who really wants to sit around and yell at themselves?